I'm not sure if everyone has seen the movie “Date Night”, but as a huge fan of Steve Carell, I have to personally say that the film was a huge success. Not only was it entertaining and well plotted, but it also served to remind us all of the very real issue that married couples or even live-in relationship couples face—boredom. Like the part where Mark Ruffalo says:
I thought everything was fine, really. But you know what? We are stuck in these roles together and we can't break out of them, you know? It's like that Asian dude in "Sixteen Candles", Long Dik Dog.
Nobody wants to get stuck in a rut and become boring with their partner. In the beginning, all relationships start out so fun, so tantalizing, so new—from the first kiss you share to the first behind closed doors act—but after awhile the flames die down and life gets back to normal, only now there are two of you to look after instead of one. It's completely normal for couples who are in a long-term relationship to get into a routine. Novel experiences during the early days of romance were so special because the newness of the passion you felt caused a release of dopamine, the chemical messenger that affects the pleasure centre of your brain. That is why at the beginning of a relationship, everything seems so much more fun. But after awhile you get used to it and the newness of the feeling tends to die down. We all want that feeling to be there, but can't exactly play bee-from-flower-to-flower every time we get bored. So what are some ways that you can get your dopamine on again? Check out some of these tried and proven ways from marriage experts from around the world.
1) See each day as your first. This is probably the toughest thing to do, but try it. It's really worth the effort. While I was counselling a couple last week, their problem at the top of the list was how they could avoid getting upset at each other for small things. While there may be other ways of looking at this, my advice is don't focus on what you don't like, who's right and who's wrong, instead choose to see the good. It doesn't mean that the things you don't like about your other half aren't there, it just means that up to some point you will discuss the things you don't like and then choose think about the good. What did you fall in love with them for in the first place? Whatever it was, remind yourself of it every day. Dwell on the good in each other.
2) Make time to talk. It's all too easy to get familiar with your significant other to the point that you really don't feel the need to talk, because you already know what they are going to say, what their opinions are, and what their reactions will be. While you may be right because you know each other so well, I would still suggest that you take time to build friendship bonds. Get to know each other again every day. If you don't take the time to connect with each other, life will come between you, so take time to focus on each other and connect in a deeper way. I'll be the first to admit, I'm not one to be jazzed over the idea of a scheduled sit down powwow, but planning a dinner date, a coffee break, or just a walk in the park while sharing some meaningful conversation can really build you up as a couple. Treat each other like individuals, and take time to listen to what the other has to tell you, instead of thinking “we've been there, done that, and know that”.
3) Have sex and talk sexy. As you get older and busier you start to lose the idea that sex every night is even possible, and that’s perfectly normal. A survey done in 1994 by the University of Chicago found that only a third of adults have sex more than once a week, so it's quite clear that daily sex is far from a daily reality. While there are a host of ways you can spice it up in the bedroom, or all over the house, it might even be beneficial to take a break from sex for a couple days and then get back to it. There's often a lot of stress involved when he is upset because she never wants it, and she is upset because he only wants it. It's not always going to work guys, so it's best to remember that sex is not always between your legs, it's between your ears. Think sexy and talk sexy and pretty soon you will both start to feel sexy too. Think about it this way, you might only be having sex every third day, but if you talk sexy and work it up during those three days, imagine what will happen on the third day. Another factor to keep in mind as you get on in age is that stress, illness, or ED might become an issue. In which case, consult your doctor if you should take cialis20mg tablets to get things going in the right direction for you again. If you have a prescription from your doctor then it is possible to buy Cialis online.
Author Bio: John Smith is an avid writer and follower of good lifestyle and health habits. He specialises in writing articles on sexual health and some of the ED products like Cialis. He has a deep faith in the potential of natural cures and this is well reflected in his articles.
